The "Rescue Me" game

Here's a simple pointer that even I had to learn. It's a game that your wife may play, I've entitled it, "Rescue Me". It's named for the reason that women want to be rescued. Here's when you know it....they say things like "get away from me" or something along the lines of "leave me alone". Now here's where you come in. You leave them alone or whatever they're asking and you give them about 10 minutes or so.

After that time, you come back to her in a light open tone. If she's ready to let you in, you'll know, if she isn't you'll know too! You approach her with love and comfort, not to be confused with remembering how she yelled at you and you being upset. Those feeling have to be put to the side because believe it or not fellas, it's not about you at this point. You have to come in, with the objective to listen, be non-judgmental and to comfort and the strategy is to console, apologize, and comfort. She might need all 3, she might need less, she might need more, but it's good to have these 3 on deck.

Let her talk, cry, whatever, but just listen, look attentive, smile and nod, but look her in her eyes so that she knows that you're listening (even if you aren't it's good to do that every so often). Just be open and listen!

After she's all done, hug her, hold her, tell her you love her, and that she's awesome. If an apology is needed, either from you or her, apologize. It doesn't matter who's wrong or right, it's typically most always, 99.9% of the time, you! So just apologize to keep the peace.

Now you know how the game works, just be sure to apply these rules where necessary. She will play the game a lot sooner than you know!