time managing marriage

Another day of living life and understanding the other stuff.

I was in a coffee shop listening to another under 5 year couple in the store....they weren't the most friendliest of people. But they left me with some good words. A combination of words are "time management".

THe most difficult thing for many of us, as people, is time management. In fact, there are people that pay people to manage their time. In marriage, there has to be a time where you manage your time between your wants and self desires with the desires and wants of the other person. In so many words, you have to learn to inter-weave interests, activities, and lifestyles in order to build a successful relationship and marriage. For a lot of people, it gets difficult at this stage. It's a process, the process of being in a process that takes time to process. That's where the complications come into the picture. The sooner that we can accomplish this, the better!

Now, here's a word for the ladies....I know that for a lot of you, it's difficult to SUBMIT. It's a process just like everything else...but it's the same deal, the sooner you learn this, accept it, and call it what it is, then it will lessen the complications of marriage. Now for the guys, I learned that you don't necessarily make a woman submit by putting your hands on her. It doesn't help because you think it might work, but it makes everything worst. It hurts her so much that she has to get over the fear, get through the pain, then learn how to love all over again. Those bags take time to be dropped. It hurts women to the point that they won't tell you. There will always be something, but you won't know.

Another area that we have to take note of is that we have to learn how to be patient. That's the key, is being patient and learning that we don't always have to be right. Taking that, to say this: When it get's to the point that it doesn't matter who's right or wrong, then you have made some major growth. In fact, I'll stop there to say this, be patient with her, because she's overly patient with you.

Getting a hobby and doing one together.....that's what's next....